Sunday, October 18, 2015

Living Life By Your Own Rules by Brittni Pope

Ultimately, this life is ours for the taking. We have power! We can make decisions and choices to either bring us closer to our greatness or keep us separate from it. In one way or another, we will all encounter barricades that make accessing our inherent greatness seem or feel virtually impossible. And there’s no guidebook detailing the best way to live our lives so that we can have all of the things we desire and truly be happy. In more ways than not, we’re essentially left to our own devices with no other solution than to figure it all out as we go. 

So, here we are, figuring it all out whilst simultaneously recognizing that what seemed like a fool-proof approach to adulthood is more like trial-and-error on top of a huge pile of trial-and-error. Some of us realize we aren’t too keen on climbing the corporate ladder for the rest of our lives. Others of us realize that our passions have changed and we want to change careers. Some come to find that no amount of money is enough to compensate them for lost time in their personal lives. The list could go on and on. It doesn’t really matter what category you fall into, but the point is that we have to live a little of the contrast to know what we really want and care about having. If you’re currently experiencing the contrast, it’s ok. Pay close attention to what you love and don’t love about your experience. It will help you as you start this journey to living a life that makes you happy.

Once we’ve realized that none of us really know what we’re doing, like any new game, project or test, we guess and make up our own rules or parameters as we go. We seem to be fine with this until it might affect our individual livelihoods or families or pockets. All understandable and completely valid, however, why should our approach to life be immune to the same process?

Life got really fun and really exciting the moment I realized that I could design my own life. So many of us live lives that don’t resonate because we don’t believe that we have the capacity to do this or care too much about what others may think. This causes us to inadvertently choose to live lives framed, shaped and molded by people who don’t have our ultimate happiness nor best interest at heart.

If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by your own life or felt like you were living a life that wasn’t meant to be yours, it’s because you’ve given creative control to other people. I can remember feeling like I was drowning. Every time I thought about my life I felt nauseous. It was the first time I’d ever experienced a real-time recognition that I was sitting in the passenger seat of my life with someone who I didn’t know driving recklessly. I felt like I had no control over a life that I was seemingly an active participant in. 

Do you want to know what’s more terrifying than taking control of your own life? Learning how to live and function in soul wrenching pain if you don’t.
  • Your life doesn’t have to be defined by how well you can suffer through it. 
  • Your life also doesn’t have to be defined by how well you can take direction.
  • Give yourself permission to give yourself direction. 
  • Give yourself permission to design your life. Give yourself permission to live a life that makes you happy.
Living your happiest life is not selfish. Living your happiest life on purpose is actually one of the most selfless things you can do. It gives you the ability to show up as the best version of yourself in every aspect of your life and most importantly for the people counting on you most.

If you don’t have it all figured out, that’s ok! Truthfully, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Guess what, no one else does either! Cut yourself some slack! 

I can assure you that if you show up each day of your life on purpose and with intention in a way that feels authentic to who you really are, your personalized how-to guide for life will write itself.  

Stop the comparison games! Stop obsessing over the perfectly filtered and curated lives that you see on social media. 

Remember, our journeys are individual and unique to us. Celebrate that instead of trying to resist it. Give your best life a fighting chance by dancing to the beat of your own drum and writing your own rules.

When it’s all said and done, you want to be able to look back at your life and know that you showed up for yourself as someone who made you happy, not as someone who lived a life of discord so that others could be happy.

Your most amazing life is waiting on you to design it as you’re living it! Your best life starts NOW!

About the author: Brittni Pope is a 25-year-old woman residing in Atlanta, Georgia dedicated to empowering and enriching the lives of others through sharing ways to build a positive and healthy relationships with themselves. She only takes two things in life very seriously, love and happiness! Her main platforms are her website,, and her YouTube Channel, where people can find blogs or videos covering a variety of topics dealing with personal and professional development, fashion, lifestyle and travel. Brittni also works in the digital marketing industry where she is able to combine her personal passions with her profession. She has been able to build a community of people across the world who are committed to living their happiest lives and looks forward to the continued growth and expansion of channeling her passions in this capacity. If you are interested in connecting with her, you can do so by e-mailing her at or following her on Instagram or Twitter at @BrittniPope.

“We only ever settle for anything in life because we’re scared of something worse or something better. I’m here to help people understand that ’something better’ can be their reality and that their fear only has as much power as they assign to it.” -Brittni Pope

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